Abbie
When we are in the bedroom, my husband expects me to be wearing stockings and suspenders before we get to business. But what used to be fun, now the novelty has worn off, I am finding it a bit of a drag.
Why isn't my bear skin enough to turn him on? This fixation is starting to make me feel inadequate. What can I do?
As I say to many women in my advice columns, wearing stockings and indeed any lingerie is your choice. You should not feel under pressure to wear it.
As you rightly point out, if it is to be expected every time, the fun part for you goes out of it quickly.
I wonder if this is just a case of your husband's lack of imagination in the bedroom department. Men love women in stockings, and he is conforming to a stereotypical version of female glamour.
Though the problem could run deep, he may find it impossible to perform without you wearing stockings and suspenders.
It would be hard to get him to admit this, so please proceed gently with my advice.
Give him time and space to explain his obsession. Then use your imagination! Are there any sexual fantasies you have never voiced or strong inclinations you have neglected to act on?
It is important to tell him it is not the last he has seen you wearing stockings. You would like to add more variety to your sex life.
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