I am a plus-size lady & my boyfriend wants me to wear sexy outfits for him.

Written by: Abbie Quinn

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Abbie, I am a plus-size lady (UK 16-18). My boyfriend wants me to wear some sexy outfits for him. Yet I think I will look silly wearing lingerie, as it's clearly for slim women.


Do you think I have a point, or am I wrong? If so, what plus-size lingerie do you have?

Many plus-size women feel self-conscious and uncomfortable about lingerie

Thank you for your question. I will put your mind at ease and let you know you are not alone in your thinking!

You have good reasons to think this, but neither would you look silly wearing lingerie. 


Many plus-size women feel self-conscious and uncomfortable about lingerie, especially when wearing lingerie targeted towards slimmer ladies, over magazines, social media and on lingerie websites.
The world is not full of the models you see on morning TV strutting their stuff.


  • The world is not full of the Glamourous Holyrood actors you see in magazines
  • The world is not full of the hot models you see in lingerie on my website
  • Don't believe you are abnormal- as you are most certainly not!
Woman wearing plus-size lingerie from Shirley of Hollywood

You can look and feel sexy, being a plus-size woman

But just because you may not fit into the typical "slim" lingerie mould doesn't mean you can't look and feel sexy, and being a plus-size woman can come with its own set of insecurities and challenges.


With our partners wanting us to look sexy and desired, the pressure to wear lingerie designed for slimmer bodies can make plus-size women feel uncomfortable and self-conscious. It's not uncommon for partners to ask their cuddly significant others to wear something sexy, but trying to fit into something designed for someone with a different body shape can be daunting. 


We will explore ways to navigate lingerie as a plus-size woman while embracing your body and boosting your confidence.

Woman wearing plus-size lingerie from Shirley of Hollywood

How Can a Plus Size Woman Feel Confident and Sexy in Lingerie?

First and foremost, it's essential to recognize that every body type is beautiful, including yours. Don't let societal expectations and media portrayals of "perfect bodies" deter you from feeling confident and sexy in lingerie. You deserve to feel beautiful and desirable just as much as anyone else.


To help boost your confidence, consider investing in plus-size lingerie that flatters your body shape. The right lingerie can highlight your curves, accentuate your assets, and make you feel comfortable and confident.


Don't be afraid to try different styles and materials when shopping my website for plus-size lingerie. Experiment with colours, patterns, and designs until you find something that makes you feel good. 

Woman wearing plus-size lingerie from Shirley of Hollywood

Communicating with Your Partner

Your partner may have a particular type of lingerie they enjoy seeing you in, but it's essential to let them know that you may need something that fits your body better. Be honest with them about any insecurities you may have, and don't be afraid to tell them if you don't feel comfortable in a particular style or piece of plus-size lingerie.


Your partner should understand that lingerie should not make you look silly or uncomfortable. It should enhance your natural beauty and make you feel confident. Don't let anyone pressure you into wearing something that doesn't make you feel your best.
Remember, communication is vital in any relationship, and this includes when it comes to intimacy and lingerie. Be open with your partner and explain your concerns or preferences.

Woman wearing plus-size lingerie from Shirley of Hollywood

The plus-size lingerie market

Despite the growing body positivity movement and increased visibility of plus-size models and celebrities, the lingerie industry is still catching up regarding inclusivity. For a long time, the only lingerie options for plus-size women were basic, ill-fitting bras and briefs. However, the lingerie industry has moved towards more diverse and inclusive offerings in the plus-size market.


Plus-size lingerie brand Shirley of Hollywood excels in catering to larger bodies with sexy and stylish lingerie. However, it's important to note that the plus-size lingerie industry is still a niche market and often comes with a higher price tag.


I highly recommend looking at our Plus-size Shirley Of Hollywood lingerie collection, which is alluring and flirtatiously fun.


Look at the Baby dolls that are soft and floaty nightdress that shows glimmers of skin while covering up those lumps and bumps and showing off your curves, and providing easy access to your partner that guarantees to be driven crazy with temptation.  


Your boyfriend wanted sexy - The products in this plus-size collection will take that to the next level!


As plus-size women, we shouldn't have to compromise on style and design just because our bodies are different.

 Thankfully, with more options now available in the market, we can choose lingerie that makes us feel beautiful and confident.

Woman wearing plus-size lingerie from Shirley of Hollywood

Conclusion to Plus-size lingerie

Feeling confident and sexy in lingerie is about embracing your body and loving yourself just as you are. Don't let anyone tell you you're not beautiful or deserving of feeling sexy – because you are.


Remember that intimacy is about more than physical appearance – it is about connection and intimacy. If you're uncomfortable wearing lingerie, there are plenty of alternative options for spicing things up in the bedroom. 


The important thing is to have positive and honest communication with your partner so that you both can have a pleasurable and comfortable experience.

Ask Abbie - Lingerie agony aunt

Abbie is the agony aunt for those trying to navigate the lingerie world. As an online lingerie owner, I help my customers with everything – from relationship problems to finding the sexy nightwear that will excite your partner to tips and tricks on making lingerie more comfortable. 


Do you have a question for Abbie?

To answer the questions you might be too shy to ask your friends. Abbie is your lingerie fairy godmother. 


Email abbie@quinnbeauty.co.uk 

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